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Antitoxin To Self- Criticism!

How do you feel when you look in the mirror? Do you criticize how you look?  The way you think has the power to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.  If you have a harsh  inner critic , you're not alone: Self-doubt, catastrophic predictions, and harsh words are common. But you don't have to be a victim of your own verbal abuse.  Occasional self-doubt is generally considered to be a normal part of life, but chronic or excessive self-criticism may contribute to mental health concerns, such as  depression ,  social anxiety ,  body image  issues, or feelings of  worthlessness . A tendency to blame oneself when things go wrong may lead to feelings of failure, lowness, or a depressed mood. You know what? The greatest cure, The greatest love of all is- Self Love!   To love yourself is to be in awe of the miracle of your existence. It is to accept yourself as you are - the "light" parts and the "dark" , the "good" and the "bad" - while

Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a ROBOT . But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking. Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood? Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play. If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

Emotions are Overrated

Emotions evolved for one specific purpose: o help us live a little bit better. They're feedback mechanisms telling us that something is either likely right or likely wrong for us-- nothing more, nothing less. Much as the pain of touching a hot stove teaches you not to touch it again.  Emotions are part of the equation of our lives, but not the entire equation. Just because something feels good doesn't mean it is good. Just because something feels bad doesn't mean it is bad. This is why your problems are recursive and unavoidable. The house you buy is the house you repair. The dream job you take s the job you stress over. Everything comes with a sacrifice--whatever makes us feel good will also inevitably make us feel bad. What we gain is also what we lose. What creates our positive experiences will define our negative experiences. This is a difficult pill to swallow. We like the idea that there's some form of ultimate happiness that can be attained. We like the